Whereas when you try to make yourself attractive in order to find someone, you alter the way you behave and present yourself so that if your soul mate were to show up, he or she might not even recognize you. This makes you more beautiful in a natural and effortless way, and it will also make you attractive to your soul mate. You become more real, authentic, substantial, valuable, passionate, happy, and present. Stop trying to appeal to an imagined, potential partner.Ī side effect of leading the life you choose is that you automatically become more attractive. So you will have a much better chance of meeting your soul mate, because your soul mate will also be connected to your life path.

But if you want to find fulfillment in your life, you have to fulfill yourself, not someone else!Īnd doing what is right for you means you will be in places, jobs, and near people that are aligned with your life path, and with you. This can disappoint some people close to you, such as your family. I was no longer following someone else’s rules and ideas about what I should do. When I started to discover more about myself and to follow my own path, I started to live a life that was meaningful to me. And when I started to work on that, my life changed. What I discovered was that I had to learn to be whole. Breaking up with past boyfriends was so painful because it felt as if I was breaking up, as if I was being torn from a part of myself. Previously, I needed to be with someone in order to feel content, to have someone love me in order to feel loved. I decided to turn my attention inward-to get to know and accept myself, to heal past wounds, and to explore and develop new parts of myself. I stopped looking for “the one” after a two-year relationship ended, which I had believed was the one. This may sound counterintuitive, but it’s exactly how I met my husband. Stop looking for your soul mate and find the missing parts of you.

Here are six steps that worked for me: 1. In my experience, finding your soul mate requires a different, far more soul-enriching approach. So they try to present themselves in the best possible light for their imagined future partner-either as one perfect half of a whole or as an ideal version of what they believe their future partner will want. Often when people want a new relationship, they either look for someone to complete them or they imagine sharing their life with someone just like them. “The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” ~Carl Jung

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